Why do women like to put down other women? You go to the store, the spa, the gym, or even a restaurant and get an ugly look or two from other women in the room. Is it your hair, makeup, outfit, the way you walk? Who knows…all I know is women make other women feel insecure when it should be the other way around. Women should always support each other in all they do, complement one another, or simply let them know if their slip is showing. I believe most women are natural born leaders, teachers, and strong. But it’s those few that make us look bad. 
Example: Yesterday I saw something on Facebook that was disturbing to me. Now if you post something on your wall for the world to 
see, you should always be prepared for the opinionated comments of others, right? I guess my bluntness and opinion hit a nerve. Whether it did or not, I felt it had to be addressed and I couldn’t help but comment on it. In my newsfeed, I see a picture of a heavy set woman wearing some really short white shorts walking on a track at a nearby park in my community and the same area I went to high school at. Now I’m not the fashion police by all means, but they were not very flattering on her and may be just a tad too short for her figure, I will admit that. What bugged me was why on earth would someone stoop that low and take a picture to post it? To think this a person that other women admire, loves quoting pastors, and believes in god did this. You’re on the track walking just like the woman in the white shorts was. What was the point in taking a picture of her and posting it on facebook other than to make fun of her? Why not keep your ugly opinions to yourself instead of looking like some mean high school girl. Are you really that shallow? I guess so. Seeing this was a reminder how people can really be. The social media world is just as small as our world, you never know who knows who and would recognize the person in the picture, so always think about that when you decide you want to post pictures of other people.
Next time you see a woman that you feel shouldn’t be wearing something, think of this: First off, this woman may be someone’s mother, sister, aunt, grandmother, best friend. She may be a doctor that has saved many lives too! Would you like it if someone posted a picture of a family member or close friend to make fun of them…Probably not? Who knows what that woman is going through in her personal life, she may have medical issues, lost 200 lbs and felt great about herself, lost a loved one, was able to walk again after a car accident, a cancer survivor, be an angel from heaven, or just had the guts to wear what she wanted because she’s just that confident. Didn’t matter what she was wearing, the point was, she was out there walking to make a change in her life or to enjoy the nice weather. What kind of example are you setting for your peers and more so your own children being that cruel making fun of others? If you’re single and wonder why you can’t meet Mr. Right, maybe its because you’re shallow and it scares men off? Kids nowadays are mean…why? Because they learn how to be shallow pricks from their parents. Teach the children in your life to love and appreciate all shapes, sizes, colors, & genders. The world cannot become a better place if these simple acts of kindness are not taught at home.
I’ve never had self esteem issues, not even as a young girl. Unfortunately, there are many girls and women today that do and it’s because other women put them down. I hear clients speak of things like this all the time. How the constant criticism from other women really affects them. One thing I’m grateful for is my mother raised me well. She taught me that you have to always accept everyone for who they are and what they look like. That god made us all different and special in our own ways, and making fun of people is cruel. For women to flourish, we have to appreciate the 
beauty and uniqueness that we all individually carry. I don’t care what Vogue or any other beauty magazine insists we look like; we are all beautiful in our own way. Let’s be better women by not putting our own kind down, inspire other women around us to do the same thing, especially those younger than you. Remember, as women, individually we are strong and together we are powerful.
April M. Monterrosa is the Owner of The Lil Spa Room , PCA Skin Certified, a Nuskin Skin Care Distributor, Founder of Wonderfully Wise Women, & a Writer for SAXtreme Magazine. Just a simple & Proud Latina from San Antonio, Texas, a Marine Corps wife, Mama of a Dachshund, & a licensed Cosmetologist of 17+ years, blogging about things I love most…Beauty, Love, Life, Spa, Wine, and everything else in between! Check out my Beauty Blog at: lilsparoom.com
